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An image of a couple holding hands. The people could be in their 30s, both female, or one could be male. The image shows only the hands and arms in the foreground, against a blurred background of greenery and a crimson flower. One person is wearing a long-sleeved, white embroidered cotton shirt, painted, purple fingernails and an engagement ring on her left hand. The other person has unpainted, short fingernails. The image shows connection as a way to improve your relationship.

How to improve your relationship with your partner

Improve your relationship with your partner Typically, couples struggle in four areas that when addressed, will improve your relationship with your partner. These are communication, how to manage conflict, improving intimacy, and balancing roles and responsibilities. Many couples struggle with one or more of these areas. To improve your relationship with your partner, it may

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The image of a woman’s legs, sitting cross-legged on a chair, wearing black corporate style trousers, black court shoes and two different socks. You can see one foot has a rainbow coloured sock and the other a clear stocking sock. Does she need help with a decision of which pair to wear to work? What kind of decision-maker might she be?

Decision-making. Need help?

Decision-making—need help? Decision-making—why is it that some people struggle with making decisions and others find it easy? The answer lies in your past experiences and how you view them. If you’ve struggled with decisions in the past it is likely that this will influence your present experience. If you consider yourself a poor decision-maker you

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The image of a worried 30-something year old man’s face shows half his face, alluding to the way self-doubt can eat away at you

Help with self-doubt

“The worst enemy to creativity is self-doubt.” Sylvia Plath What is self-doubt? Self-doubt is defined as a lack of confidence in oneself and one’s abilities. It is different to self-esteem, which is how you feel about yourself and how you perceive your own value or worth as a person. Self-doubt is characterised by a negative belief

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This is an image of a dartboard with a dart in the inner bullseye. The bullseye is a metaphor for perfectionism and the constant striving to hit the centre of the target every time.

The problem with perfectionism

The problem with perfectionism The problem with perfectionism is that it drives you to strive relentlessly for an idealised, unachievable standard for yourself and others. As a perfectionist, you may not be satisfied with anything less than a bullseye every time. That’s a great goal for an elite marksman, but have you stopped to think how that person became so successful at

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A group of three people interact with each other: one young man and two young women. All look relaxed and comfortable as they talk to people more easily.

Talk to people more easily

So you want to talk to people more easily? Despite what you think, many people want to be able to talk to people more easily so they feel more comfortable in social situations. It is natural to feel nervous when first meeting people or trying to fit into a social group. You may struggle to feel

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Someone is slouched on a chair looking at a wrist watch. They are wearing brightly coloured yoga pants and thongs, with feet resting on a wooden table facing the camera.

How do I stop procrastinating?

  I have spent my days stringing and unstringing my instrument, while the song I came to sing remains unsung. — Rabindranath Tagore How do I stop procrastinating? How do I stop procrastinating? Answer: start procrastinating about procrastination. That’s right, put it off! I’ve been putting off writing this blog for about a year now.

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This is an image of an elite dark blue BMW sports car as a metaphor for the need to road test your New Year’s resolutions.

Tips for road testing your New Year’s resolutions

Road test your New Year’s resolutions Did you make any New Year’s resolutions this year? Each year about 50 percent of Australians make New Year’s resolutions. According to a 2015 National survey of 1,059 Australians conducted by, most of these failed (58 percent), with 15 percent breaking their resolution by the end of March

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We all experience Xmas stress. A cute Spaniel in a Santa suit lies spent next to a wine glass, the day after his Xmas outing.

Xmas stress? What you can and can’t do about the family

What is Xmas stress? Xmas is supposed to be a time of joy, goodwill, peace and relaxation, right? That’s a lot of expectations! We might be setting ourselves up for disappointment. Or maybe you already expect the worst? What’s the movie playing in your head about Xmas day? Are you experiencing Xmas stress already? For

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A young man throws his head back in laughter, carefree and confident.

Build confidence with coaching

How to build confidence? I have chosen this title rather than ‘How to gain confidence’ or ‘How to be confident’. Why? Because I believe we all have the foundations of our own confidence. Confidence is not something outside ourselves that we need to acquire, or an action we can take without truly understanding ourselves. Firstly, we

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