This is an image of a dartboard with a dart in the inner bullseye. The bullseye is a metaphor for perfectionism and the constant striving to hit the centre of the target every time.

The problem with perfectionism

The problem with perfectionism The problem with perfectionism is that it drives you to strive relentlessly for an idealised, unachievable standard for yourself and others. As a perfectionist, you may not be satisfied with anything less than a bullseye every time. That’s a great goal for an elite marksman, but have you stopped to think how that person became so successful at

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A group of three people interact with each other: one young man and two young women. All look relaxed and comfortable as they talk to people more easily.

Talk to people more easily

So you want to talk to people more easily? Despite what you think, many people want to be able to talk to people more easily so they feel more comfortable in social situations. It is natural to feel nervous when first meeting people or trying to fit into a social group. You may struggle to feel

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How do I stop procrastinating?

  I have spent my days stringing and unstringing my instrument, while the song I came to sing remains unsung. — Rabindranath Tagore How do I stop procrastinating? How do I stop procrastinating? Answer: start procrastinating about procrastination. That’s right, put it off! I’ve been putting off writing this blog for about a year now.

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Tips for road testing your New Year’s resolutions

Road test your New Year’s resolutions Did you make any New Year’s resolutions this year? Each year about 50 percent of Australians make New Year’s resolutions. According to a 2015 National survey of 1,059 Australians conducted by finder.com.au, most of these failed (58 percent), with 15 percent breaking their resolution by the end of March

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We all experience Xmas stress. A cute Spaniel in a Santa suit lies spent next to a wine glass, the day after his Xmas outing.

Xmas stress? What you can and can’t do about the family

What is Xmas stress? Xmas is supposed to be a time of joy, goodwill, peace and relaxation, right? That’s a lot of expectations! We might be setting ourselves up for disappointment. Or maybe you already expect the worst? What’s the movie playing in your head about Xmas day? Are you experiencing Xmas stress already? For

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Build confidence with coaching

How to build confidence? I have chosen this title rather than ‘How to gain confidence’ or ‘How to be confident’. Why? Because I believe we all have the foundations of our own confidence. Confidence is not something outside ourselves that we need to acquire, or an action we can take without truly understanding ourselves. Firstly, we

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A sculptured candle providing glimpses of light through its body as its layers uncoil towards the apex, allowing the light to shine brightest. This is a metaphor for striving towards self-actualisation.

Self-awareness and change are inextricably linked

Self-awareness “What is necessary to change a person is to change his/her awareness of himself/herself” (Abraham Maslow). Self-awareness and change are inextricably linked. Who was Maslow and what did he mean? Maslow was the founder of the humanist movement in psychology, which evolved in the 1940s and 50s. It emphasised each individual’s unique capacity for personal

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A couple are having a fight, the young woman with boxing gloves, connects with her male partner’s chin, who pulls a face as if in pain, with his eyes closed. He wears a khaki coloured shirt and a straw hat and she a black and white pokadot dress, both in their mid 30’s. The image suggests there is a different way of resolving arguments through couples counselling.

Tired of the same old arguments?

Tired of the same old arguments? Do you want things to be different? If you’re tired of the same old arguments, here is one winning strategy for getting your point across without hurting your partner or yourself. Firstly, you need to let go of the need to be right. It is a losing strategy that can

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How do I choose my counsellor?

How do I choose my counsellor? In addition to checking out the counsellor’s qualifications and experience in the area in which you are seeking help, there are certain personal qualities that you might be looking for in a person you seek help from. There is also the important question of the fit between you and

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A child sits on the shoulders of her grandparents, watching pink fireworks light up the sky. Others look up to the sky in wonder, a metaphor that anything is possible when we stop, look and listen. Life coaching can help you live your dreams.

Want more in life?

Want more in life? At a recent Life coach development course I attended on the Gold Coast I was asked a provocative question. What would you do differently in your life if you could start over? I felt sad about some missed opportunities. Held back by shyness, lack of confidence and avoidance of unfamiliar social situations, I realised I wouldn’t

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