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Tips for road testing your New Year’s resolutions

Road test your New Year’s resolutions Did you make any New Year’s resolutions this year? Each year about 50 percent of Australians make New Year’s resolutions. According to a 2015 National survey of 1,059 Australians conducted by finder.com.au, most of these failed (58 percent), with 15 percent breaking their resolution by the end of March

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We all experience Xmas stress. A cute Spaniel in a Santa suit lies spent next to a wine glass, the day after his Xmas outing.

Xmas stress? What you can and can’t do about the family

What is Xmas stress? Xmas is supposed to be a time of joy, goodwill, peace and relaxation, right? That’s a lot of expectations! We might be setting ourselves up for disappointment. Or maybe you already expect the worst? What’s the movie playing in your head about Xmas day? Are you experiencing Xmas stress already? For

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Build confidence with coaching

How to build confidence? I have chosen this title rather than ‘How to gain confidence’ or ‘How to be confident’. Why? Because I believe we all have the foundations of our own confidence. Confidence is not something outside ourselves that we need to acquire, or an action we can take without truly understanding ourselves. Firstly, we

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Self-awareness and change are inextricably linked

Self-awareness “What is necessary to change a person is to change his/her awareness of himself/herself” (Abraham Maslow). Self-awareness and change are inextricably linked. Who was Maslow and what did he mean? Maslow was the founder of the humanist movement in psychology, which evolved in the 1940s and 50s. It emphasised each individual’s unique capacity for personal

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Tired of couple’s arguments?

Couple’s arguments Couple’s arguments may take on a format you are not happy with. You could find they start and end the same way. They might be about the same things. The past may get brought up in couple’s arguments about something else. If you experience recurring issues in your couple’s arguments, it may means

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How do I choose my counsellor?

How do I choose my counsellor? In addition to checking out the counsellor’s qualifications and experience in the area in which you are seeking help, there are certain personal qualities that you might be looking for in a person you seek help from. There is also the important question of the fit between you and

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Want more in life?

Want more in life? At a recent Life coach development course I attended on the Gold Coast I was asked a provocative question. What would you do differently in your life if you could start over? I felt sad about some missed opportunities. Held back by shyness, lack of confidence and avoidance of unfamiliar social situations, I realised I wouldn’t

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Clinical supervision – time to stop and reflect

What do graduate and trainee counsellors need in supervision? ‘In clinical supervision the central focus is on both the optimum treatment outcome for the client and the professional development and self-care of the supervisee’ (PACFA, 2014). Supervision offers a broader lens through which to explore issues and other approaches. Early career counsellors typically benefit from

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How can I be more optimistic?

  Learn to be more optimistic Developing an optimistic attitude gives you a more positive outlook on life. It is a key aspect to good health. Asking the question: “how can I be more optimistic?” is a good start. Yet around 18,000 people a month worldwide ask: “how can I not be depressed?” This is a negative

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Self esteem revisited

What is self esteem? Self esteem has been defined as ‘an unfavourable global evaluation of yourself’ (Baumeister, 1996). This one-dimensional view is problematic as it doesn’t allow for error, it s very unforgiving of any mistakes we might make. It views self esteem as a trait that is fixed. Once you have it doesn’t leave

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