Category Archives: Counselling

How to keep motivated in winter

Why is it hard to keep motivated in winter? To keep motivated in winter a healthy mind-body routine and mindset are key. It is a time when people may drop their usual wellness routines and put their goals on hold. A ‘winter blues’ mindset may take hold. Some people are really affected by seasonal change,

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How to break a bad habit

“You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage…to say ‘no’ to other things. And the way to do that is by having a bigger ‘yes’ burning inside.” Dr Stephen Covey Good and bad habits To break a bad habit you need to refocus on something that is a higher priority

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Am I addicted to my smartphone?

The average smartphone user touches their phones (swipes, clicks, types and taps) 2,617 times a day (dscout, 2017). Am I addicted to my smartphone?  I just completed a quiz on whether I am addicted to my smartphone. According to the results, we are ‘almost inseparable and need to evaluate how much time we spend together’

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How to improve your relationship with your partner

Improve your relationship with your partner Typically, couples struggle in four areas that when addressed, will improve your relationship with your partner. These are communication, how to manage conflict, improving intimacy, and balancing roles and responsibilities. Many couples struggle with one or more of these areas. To improve your relationship with your partner, it may

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Talk to people more easily

So you want to talk to people more easily? Despite what you think, many people want to be able to talk to people more easily so they feel more comfortable in social situations. It is natural to feel nervous when first meeting people or trying to fit into a social group. You may struggle to feel

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How do I stop procrastinating?

  I have spent my days stringing and unstringing my instrument, while the song I came to sing remains unsung. — Rabindranath Tagore How do I stop procrastinating? How do I stop procrastinating? Answer: start procrastinating about procrastination. That’s right, put it off! I’ve been putting off writing this blog for about a year now.

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Self-awareness and change are inextricably linked

Self-awareness “What is necessary to change a person is to change his/her awareness of himself/herself” (Abraham Maslow). Self-awareness and change are inextricably linked. Who was Maslow and what did he mean? Maslow was the founder of the humanist movement in psychology, which evolved in the 1940s and 50s. It emphasised each individual’s unique capacity for personal

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Tired of couple’s arguments?

Couple’s arguments Couple’s arguments may take on a format you are not happy with. You could find they start and end the same way. They might be about the same things. The past may get brought up in couple’s arguments about something else. If you experience recurring issues in your couple’s arguments, it may means

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How do I choose my counsellor?

How do I choose my counsellor? In addition to checking out the counsellor’s qualifications and experience in the area in which you are seeking help, there are certain personal qualities that you might be looking for in a person you seek help from. There is also the important question of the fit between you and

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Self esteem revisited

What is self esteem? Self esteem has been defined as ‘an unfavourable global evaluation of yourself’ (Baumeister, 1996). This one-dimensional view is problematic as it doesn’t allow for error, it s very unforgiving of any mistakes we might make. It views self esteem as a trait that is fixed. Once you have it doesn’t leave

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