Category Archives: Counselling

Talk to people more easily

So you want to talk to people more easily? Despite what you think, many people want to be able to talk to people more easily so they feel more comfortable in social situations. It is natural to feel nervous when first meeting people or trying to fit into a social group. You may struggle to feel

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How do I stop procrastinating?

  I have spent my days stringing and unstringing my instrument, while the song I came to sing remains unsung. — Rabindranath Tagore How do I stop procrastinating? How do I stop procrastinating? Answer: start procrastinating about procrastination. That’s right, put it off! I’ve been putting off writing this blog for about a year now.

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Self-awareness and change are inextricably linked

Self-awareness “What is necessary to change a person is to change his/her awareness of himself/herself” (Abraham Maslow). Self-awareness and change are inextricably linked. Who was Maslow and what did he mean? Maslow was the founder of the humanist movement in psychology, which evolved in the 1940s and 50s. It emphasised each individual’s unique capacity for personal

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Tired of the same old arguments?

Tired of the same old arguments? Do you want things to be different? If you’re tired of the same old arguments, here is one winning strategy for getting your point across without hurting your partner or yourself. Firstly, you need to let go of the need to be right. It is a losing strategy that can

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How do I choose my counsellor?

How do I choose my counsellor? In addition to checking out the counsellor’s qualifications and experience in the area in which you are seeking help, there are certain personal qualities that you might be looking for in a person you seek help from. There is also the important question of the fit between you and

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Self esteem revisited

What is self esteem? Self esteem has been defined as ‘an unfavourable global evaluation of yourself’ (Baumeister, 1996). This one-dimensional view is problematic as it doesn’t allow for error, it s very unforgiving of any mistakes we might make. It views self esteem as a trait that is fixed. Once you have it doesn’t leave

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Dealing with grief and loss

Grief counselling and support Grief counselling can help you through a difficult period of loss. It may provide comfort, support and care. It can help you understand the process. It can help you to honour and remember the person. It can help you to reconnect when you are ready. The reality of loss often strikes

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Stop drinking – six easy steps

How to stop drinking 1. Make a no alcohol list Make a list of your thoughts and feelings about stopping drinking for a month (What will you miss?  What are some good things?). Why is it important to you to stop drinking for a month? Remind yourself at the start of each day why it’s

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How to stop drinking in Dry July

Wine hath drowned more men than the sea – Thomas Fuller Will you be able to stop drinking in July? Do you have what it takes to quit drinking for a month? Last year 10,000 people participated in the fourth national Dry July campaign, an alcohol-free fundraiser to support cancer patients in hospitals around Australia.

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