Why am I so critical? If you’re asking the question: why am I so critical, you’re probably fed up with being critical but convinced it’s who you are. The important thing to know about being critical is that it is a...
Why am I So Critical?
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How to keep motivated in winter
Why is it hard to keep motivated in winter? To keep motivated in winter a healthy mind-body routine and mindset are key. It is a time when people may drop their usual wellness routines and put their goals on hold. A...
Why compare yourself with others?
What to do about comparing yourself to others? It’s human to compare yourself with others. We compartmentalise and sort things into categories to make sense of the world.To make sense of ourselves and our lives,...
Depression Fame and Fortune
What to do when the pressures build? Depression, fame and fortune? I was interviewed for an article in the Australian Financial Review on how the rich and famous may be more at risk of suffering from depression than...
How to break a bad habit
“You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage…to say ‘no’ to other things. And the way to do that is by having a bigger ‘yes’ burning inside.” Dr Stephen Covey Good and bad habits To break a...
Am I addicted to my smartphone?
The average smartphone user touches their phones (swipes, clicks, types and taps)2,617 times a day (dscout, 2017). Am I addicted to my smartphone? I just completed a quiz on whether I am addicted to my smartphone....
How to improve relationship with your partner
Improve your relationship with your partner Typically, couples struggle in four areas that when addressed, will improve your relationship with your partner. These include communication, how to manage conflict,...
Decision-making. Need help?
Decision-making—need help? Decision-making —why is it that some people struggle with making decisions and others find it easy? The answer lies in your past experiences and how you view them. If you’ve struggled with...
Help with self-doubt
“The worst enemy to creativity is self-doubt.” Sylvia Plath What is self-doubt? Self-doubt is defined as a lack of confidence in oneself and one's abilities. It is different to self-esteem, which is how you feel...
The problem with perfectionism
The problem with perfectionism The problem with perfectionism is that it drives you to strive relentlessly for an idealised, unachievable standard for yourself and others. As a perfectionist,...
Talk to people more easily
So you want to talk to people more easily? Despite what you think, many people want to be able to talk to people more easily so they feel more comfortable in social situations. It is natural to feel nervous when...
How do I stop procrastinating?
I have spent my days stringing and unstringing my instrument, while the song I came to sing remains unsung. — Rabindranath Tagore How do I stop procrastinating? How do I stop procrastinating? Answer: start...
Tips for road testing your New Year’s resolutions
Road test your New Year’s resolutions Did you make any New Year’s resolutions this year? Each year about 50 percent of Australians make New Year’s resolutions. According to a 2015 National survey of 1,059 Australians...
Build confidence with coaching
How to build confidence? I have chosen this title "How to build confidence' rather than ‘How to gain confidence’ or ‘How to be confident’. Why? Because I believe we all have the foundations of our own confidence....
Self-awareness and change are inextricably linked
What is self-awareness? "Self-awareness is how well you know yourself: a psychological state in which people are aware of their traits, feelings and behaviour. Alternately, it can be defined as the realisation of...
Tired of couple’s arguments?
Couple’s arguments Couple’s arguments may take on a format you are not happy with. You could find they start and end the same way. They might be about the same things. The past may get brought up in couple’s arguments...
Want more in life?
At a recent Life coach development course I attended on the Gold Coast I was asked a provocative question. What would you do differently if you could start over? I felt sad about some missed opportunities....
How can I be more optimistic?
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Self esteem revisited
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Three Keys to Happiness
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Seeking happiness is our life purpose
Seeking happiness is our life purpose “I believe that the very purpose of our life is to seek happiness. Whether one believes in religion or not, whether one believes in that religion or this religion, we are all...